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[girod]

You've reached Clark Kent. I'm not here right now, unfortunately. Please leave a message after the tone and I'll get back to you as soon as possible. Thanks!

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[girod]

To each other.

And eventually, one or the other will remember.

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[knightbynight]

There wouldn't be much to miss, if I didn't remember.

I'm still afraid of Lois.

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[girod]

Lois believes in truth.

The whole truth and nothing but the truth.

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[knightbynight]

The truth existed before we were here.
[He has loved you for a long time, Clark. He'll be doing that forever, no matter what happens here or after it.]

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[girod]

Part of the truth is the choice to act on it.

We made that choice.

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[knightbynight]

I was never suggesting we hide it from her.

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[girod]

Pretending like it goes away is hiding it from her just as much.

Re: Text, un: B

[knightbynight]

Clark.

I didn't think it was a thing that was going to continue. I'm still not sure it is. That's different than pretending it never did to Lois.

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[girod]

I never thought that was something we'd even consider.

That's not what I'm talking about.

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[knightbynight]

Do you want to elaborate on the why 'we' wouldn't consider it, or what you are talking about first?

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[girod]

I never thought you would want me to hide everything that happens here from Lois.

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[knightbynight]

I was thinking of the wrong 'it'. My apologies.

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[girod]

Which were you talking about?

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[knightbynight]

The...specific situation being here has left us in. That there'd be anything to tell her.

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[girod]

It's something I'm going to discuss with her.

That I'd like both of us to discuss with her.

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[knightbynight]

Why is this a risk you're willing to take?

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[girod]

Anything else but this is a risk.

This is the least risky way.

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[knightbynight]

[There is a pause this time, and when the answer comes... it's text but it's very much raw, honest, and vulnerable even if it doesn't seem that way - or wouldn't to most.]

I don't understand.

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[girod]

[ And that more than anything tells him how important it is for him to explain this. ]

Bruce.

Emotional honesty is just as important as anything else with a partner. With all partners.

You. And Lois.

Feelings don't just go away because now they're inconvenient. And a relationship like this shouldn't just be put away because it's no longer necessary.

It was never necessary, Bruce.

I chose, *we* chose, to go this route because I have to believe both of us always wanted it and when we had the opportunity, when other factors weren't in play, we went for it.

We both know we could just fill our quotas and make our contracts with random people we'd never see again, people who we would lose as soon as we got home.

We didn't.

And I made that choice knowing that when I get back, my relationship with you (however the timeline works out) will be, *has to be* different.

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[knightbynight]

You're reasoning and conclusions are both accurate and sound; you're right, about their being risk and almost everything else.

But while my decision here was in part a decision to take an opportunity, that decision didn't come with an expectation of long term change. I won't deny the possibility, but it isn't an expectation.

I can make, and have made, quota without you. My behavior with you here is very different than it would be without you. That was part of my choice, beyond desire or opportunity.

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[girod]

It's not about an expectation of 'long term change', Bruce.

There is a change.

The form that change will take is what we're going to eventually have to figure out.

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[knightbynight]

Fine. It wasn't an expectation of continuation or acknowledgement of anything that happens here.

And I contracted you because it keeps me from punching people in the face. I nearly refused more than the initial contracts on grounds of you deserving better, but do realize that wouldn't work on any level.

[girod]

I love you.

Romantically. As well as many other ways.

That will not stop being the case when we leave.

I love Lois. Also romantically. Also in many other ways.

When we are all in the same place, this will still be true. And the only way to be honest and fair to everyone involved, including Lois, is to be frank with her about those facts.

Going back to status quo when we get back is not an option for the health of all of the relationships involved. Especially because being with you here, knowing what it's like to express that love, to live in that space, is something I cannot just give up as a matter of course.

[knightbynight]

I can.

I will make as much effort as necessary not to, given that you've made what you need and want very clear and not doing so would surpass my own limits on being an asshole.

But I can, and I would if you had better sense. You deserve better.

You also deserve what you want. Hence the agreement on trying.

[girod]

I'm well aware of how much you're willing to give up for my happiness, Bruce.

And I wanted to make it clear how much my happiness relies on you not giving up on this relationship in this form.

You and Lois are the best people I know. There's a reason I feel the way I do.

I also know you don't see it. Which is why you're lucky I'm patient. :-)